My shallowness amazes me, but I no longer let it discourage me. The fact is, I can be strong in trying to overcome my, very noticeable, weakness.
Even though I'm in my 30s I feel like a La Croix drinking chad just commencing his 20s.... and stuck in the eighties..... At least I don't do drugs or attend raves.....
Not giving up my Spotify subscription though.....
But I'm ok with that, on one level. I have to work with what I got. I got to be free. Self-acceptance is the name of the game.
Be you. Not no one else.
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Post #2Age isn't a big thing for males since fertility doesn't decline, so I wouldn't worry about being 30 and feeling like you're 20.
I'd worry about being 80 and feeling like you're 20.

I'd worry about being 80 and feeling like you're 20.

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Post #3The heart never grows old....Purple Knight wrote: ↑Thu Apr 15, 2021 3:49 pm Age isn't a big thing for males since fertility doesn't decline, so I wouldn't worry about being 30 and feeling like you're 20.
I'd worry about being 80 and feeling like you're 20.
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Post #4To go on:
I need to improve in my character, so as to be faithful to my God. Without grace, without dependence on the Supreme Being, I can do nothing. I serve God with my free will. But free will is meaningless and fickle and flippant and can turn on a dime if it is uncontrolled; if it is uninfluenced and not inundated by the grace of God. And character is the template, the mold, by which this grace is given form in practical life.
I need land under my feet. Getting started is the hardest part. Once I have greater influx of grace, and greater development of character, then things can improve. Before that I can only pray, and meditate, and engage myself in service and higher things. And more than anything, surrender in pure trust. But even if I develop a little, the force of bad habits, and foolishness, and madness, can send me ten steps back. So one must be vigilant. At the same time, one must be self-accepting. That is an art.
One has to think, strategize, plan on how to grow and be better. But one also can't overthink. This is, again, an art. The art of living.
No one can do this alone. That should be foremost in the mind.
I need to improve in my character, so as to be faithful to my God. Without grace, without dependence on the Supreme Being, I can do nothing. I serve God with my free will. But free will is meaningless and fickle and flippant and can turn on a dime if it is uncontrolled; if it is uninfluenced and not inundated by the grace of God. And character is the template, the mold, by which this grace is given form in practical life.
I need land under my feet. Getting started is the hardest part. Once I have greater influx of grace, and greater development of character, then things can improve. Before that I can only pray, and meditate, and engage myself in service and higher things. And more than anything, surrender in pure trust. But even if I develop a little, the force of bad habits, and foolishness, and madness, can send me ten steps back. So one must be vigilant. At the same time, one must be self-accepting. That is an art.
One has to think, strategize, plan on how to grow and be better. But one also can't overthink. This is, again, an art. The art of living.
No one can do this alone. That should be foremost in the mind.
Your faith is beautiful.
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Post #5You should give it a shot on your own. What have you got to lose? This dependence gig doesn't seem to be helping in any way.Dimmesdale wrote: ↑Fri Apr 16, 2021 5:21 pm I need to improve in my character, so as to be faithful to my God. Without grace, without dependence on the Supreme Being, I can do nothing.
A great many of us have done so. Possibilities aren't limited by one single individual's failure.No one can do this alone.
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Post #6Of course it does:

Unless of course by "heart" you mean something other than a heart.
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Post #7The Chad Lacroix Pet Shop Boy Stir Fry:Tcg wrote: ↑Sat Apr 17, 2021 1:08 amYou should give it a shot on your own. What have you got to lose? This dependence gig doesn't seem to be helping in any way.Dimmesdale wrote: ↑Fri Apr 16, 2021 5:21 pm I need to improve in my character, so as to be faithful to my God. Without grace, without dependence on the Supreme Being, I can do nothing.
A great many of us have done so. Possibilities aren't limited by one single individual's failure.No one can do this alone.
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2 red/orange bell peppers
1/2 large white onion
8 oz mushrooms
paprika
lemon pepper
4 cloves garlic
serve with rice, soy sauce and sriracha
that's it, that's all you need.
you can live on that and be set for life
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Post #8Well, I've cancelled my Spotify. I got that monkey off my back.
I am growing up.
I am growing up.
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