micatala wrote:
I would largely agree, although I think the timeline of all this might be a mitigating factor.
Firstly, 19 years ago the atmosphere was a little different. You say you would hire this teacher today, and I applaud you for that. A lot of other places would as well.
I would have done it nineteen years ago, as quickly as today. In fact, I would have been more likely to have hired her BECAUSE she was willing to respect both the rules she could no longer comply with and her own relationship.
micatala wrote:19 years ago it would have been much, much harder for this person to get a teaching job most anywhere. 19 years ago, gays were faced with the choice every day, do I hide who am I and/or what I am doing for the simple practical expedient of getting a job and finding a place to live, or should I be entirely up front in all situations, thereby making my life several orders of magnitude more difficult, even just to acquire such basics as employment and housing?
Now, 19 years ago is admittedly not the same as 49 or 99 years ago, and things were better then than previously, but the atmosphere still presented these kinds of difficult choices to gays all the time.
Also, it would be interesting to know how long the relationship was going on. If the person was hired 19 years ago but at that time was single, perhaps no one but herself knew she was gay. In this case, that would be a little different than you being Mormon, as most people who are Mormon (or follow any other religion) do not do so entirely anonymously or in isolation.
Not really. I know of no school, religious or otherwise, that discriminates against sexual
orientation. The problem isn't what one prefers; it's what
one does about that preference. Catholics especially understand the idea of the person who chooses celibacy over 'sin,' as they see it. It would have been none of their business what sins the teacher would have preferred to commit, as long as they weren't actually committed, now, would it?
Had she 'not known' she was gay nineteen years ago, for instance, or if she knew she was but simply didn't act on it, then her decision point was when she decided to act on her preferences; she really needed to choose THEN; partner or job as a Catholic school teacher. Yeah, it's hard. It might not even be 'fair' as everyone else sees it, but Catholicism is pretty upfront about it's stand on homosexual relationships, and as far as I am aware, if you want to teach at a Catholic school, you have to agree to abide by Catholic moral values, whether you agree with them or not.
You know, the way if you want to work for the Disneyland organization, you can't grow a beard unless it's part of your costume. Their jobs, their rules.
micatala wrote:So, it may have been (and I know I am creating a hypothetical situation here) that she was working there for some time in a situation which, while even then you might say she was being somewhat dishonest, should not have caused anyone any concern. Later, perhaps, she becomes "more dishonest" if you will, getting into a same-sex relationship.
In other words, I think the possible progressive nature of what is going on is, to me, a mitigating factor, in combination with the society-wide discrimination that existed in the past, even 19 years ago.
Not really. nineteen years is a long time to lie...and if the conflict arose more recently than that, then THAT was when she had to make a decision.
micatala wrote:To make another, admittedly extreme, analogy, suppose we were talking ancient Rome during the reign of an emperor where even being known as a Christian meant a high probability of death. Would it really be fair to criticize a Christian in this situation for "dishonesty" for not admitting to all and sundry what his or her faith was?
That's not analogous. It isn't as if the Christians in Rome could go anywhere else...or if the penalty wasn't a bit more than 'you can't work for us.'
micatala wrote: Now, of course, this person was never facing death, but the point is there is a spectrum of what kinds of discrimination might exist for gays, or Mormons, or blacks, or Christians, or people who are left-handed or claim to worship the flying spaghetti monster. Expecting a person who may face discrimination simply for being identified as part of a given group to always be honest about being in that group, regardless of the consequences, seems to me to be an unfair expectation.
It is when the result of the dishonesty is to penalize someone else for THEIR religious beliefs. Because isn't that what was happening? This woman was being as discriminatory and bigoted by her dishonesty as some would accuse the school of being toward her, especially when the only penalty involved here was "if you can't live according to the rules of the religion that hired you, you can't work here." It's not as if that were so onerous a requirement.
I'll give you an example, a 'real world' one that IS analogous: one of the teachers of the local Christian schools met and married a Mormon, and after about five years (during which she worked for that school and was a popular and beloved member of the staff there) she decided to convert to Mormonism.
She went to the school board, told them her decision, and said that given the circumstances, she could no longer honestly sign their declaration of faith; she would teach for the rest of the term, promising to keep her personal religious opinions completely out of Algebra, but that unless they waived that requirement, she would have to leave.
They would not waive it...and she left. She got a great reference from her colleagues, and everything worked out. She found a job very soon after, for twice the pay, at a local public high school. (What can I say, math teachers are still in demand pretty much everywhere).
Your analogy to the Christians (where the penalty was being used as lighting at Nero's parties) is hardly the same thing, even here fifty years ago.