Ethical Incest

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Ethical Incest

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I have phrased the Secular barometer of morality in the following way:

1.) Is there consent between participants,
2.) Is it healthy(A huge secular value), and
3.) does it, or can it, cause physical harm to the participants involved.



If I am wrong, please reframe it correctly, not for you the individual, but for the collective secular whole. Given that definition, now consider the possible scenario with the above secular premise:

  • What about recreational sex between your syblings. Mom and dad are gone, there's nothing good on TV, we have protection. No babies will be made, and even then we have some pills we can pop to insure that. We have our fun, we obviously consent to blowing each others minds, no diseases are spread, her boyfriend doesn't know, my girlfriend won't know, our parents won't know, what is wrong with what we're doing?

    What is wrong with what we're doing? You may argue that we are sexualizing the family unit, which is also the biblical case against it, but who cares? And I mean that literally. If you grow up and you have misgivings about it, you can always never see them again, as many family members today never see each other.
I'm asking these answers because I'm tired of lazy answers, on behalf of theists and atheists. I know the reason behind the biblical prohibition on incest. But in a world with the bible in retreat, what is our(the collective "our") case against the act? These questions have political ramifications. Why do we still outlaw incest, and can you the theist defend against legalizing of incest, and can you the secularist defend against legalizing incest, or making exceptions?

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Actually, besides being husband and wife, Abraham and Sarah were brother and sister. So I don't think Marketandchurch will find the Bible very useful in building a case against incest! It's a good thing modern science teaches us that, genetically speaking, this is not a good idea.

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[Replying to post 10 by McCulloch]

McCulloch, I want to hold out a little big longer case I actually get a secular atheist who opposes incest, who can provide for me a great, secular case, against incest.

McCulloch, the case against Incest is littered all throughout Exodus, Numbers, Leviticus, and Deuteronomy. Just as you should not marry a woman who your father had known, and divorced, because you might see his nakedness, it is made routine, over and over, that the family unit cannot be sexualized, or it will cease to function properly.

Again, I don't want to go too deeply into anything, until I've gotten the answer I'm looking for, it is all within the text, if you read it with the right scholarship & commentary.

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kayky wrote: Actually, besides being husband and wife, Abraham and Sarah were brother and sister. So I don't think Marketandchurch will find the Bible very useful in building a case against incest! It's a good thing modern science teaches us that, genetically speaking, this is not a good idea.
That's not a good example of the bible showing you it's position on the issue.

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100%atheist wrote:
marketandchurch wrote:
100%atheist wrote:
marketandchurch wrote: I have phrased the Secular barometer of morality in the following way:

1.) Is there consent between participants,
2.) Is it healthy(A huge secular value), and
3.) does it, or can it, cause physical harm to the participants involved.



If I am wrong, please reframe it correctly, not for you the individual, but for the collective secular whole. Given that definition, now consider the possible scenario with the above secular premise:

  • What about recreational sex between your syblings. Mom and dad are gone, there's nothing good on TV, we have protection. No babies will be made, and even then we have some pills we can pop to insure that. We have our fun, we obviously consent to blowing each others minds, no diseases are spread, her boyfriend doesn't know, my girlfriend won't know, our parents won't know, what is wrong with what we're doing?

    What is wrong with what we're doing? You may argue that we are sexualizing the family unit, which is also the biblical case against it, but who cares? And I mean that literally. If you grow up and you have misgivings about it, you can always never see them again, as many family members today never see each other.
I'm asking these answers because I'm tired of lazy answers, on behalf of theists and atheists. I know the reason behind the biblical prohibition on incest. But in a world with the bible in retreat, what is our(the collective "our") case against the act? These questions have political ramifications. Why do we still outlaw incest, and can you the theist defend against legalizing of incest, and can you the secularist defend against legalizing incest, or making exceptions?
I do not see any problem with sex (not for breeding) between siblings provided there is a true consent. What problem do you see with this?
I am curious: Is health the animating value of why you do not want syblings to breed? Would syblings wanting to have children make incest morally problematic for you? Or is it just a minor dislike that you can overlook?
I thought that breeding within a narrow genetic pool can create some potentially unwanted genetic mutations. However I am not a specialist on this and can be wrong. If we take two hypothetical siblings who equal in their willingness to make love with each other, I do not see why I should care about the rest. Now, please answer my question in the previous post.
Fine, that is what I am looking for, intellectually honesty on the issue. I don't like it when people present stipulations that are nothing more then smoke-screens to evade having to take a position on the matter. Because what happens when excuse some of one's reservations, such as a concern for health, or consent, is it still a morally okay act to engage in...

I will answer your question in a while, I am waiting to hear a legitimate opposing of incest from either a bible-believer or atheist on the matter.

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marketandchurch wrote: In which case, I would ask: Why should we care for the trust of others when their rigid views on sexuality is keeping us from having our fun?
Well that depends on lots of vectors. I have no problem betraying someone to the authority had them committed a serious crime. The bottom line is I wouldn't like it if someone betrayed me.
And what about the trust between syblings? What if it matures into a full on life with marriage and children?
Trust between syblings is important too. I have no problem with them getting married provided there is true consent. As for children, I would strongly advice them against it, but would not outlaw it.
Thank you for framing your view of incest. Can there be a case wherein consent doesn't have an element of coercion between the older and younger member?
There can be cases where there is true consent, well, as true as a common romantic relationships that we find acceptable anyway.
Isn't this the case with a 17 year old who dates or sleeps with a 13 year old? It's disgusting, it's frowned down upon, but it's not illegal.
It isn't? It is where I live.
Whereas, incest is.
Incest is simply a taboo, for traditional sake. One that I can discard.

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marketandchurch wrote: [Replying to post 10 by McCulloch]

McCulloch, I want to hold out a little big longer case I actually get a secular atheist who opposes incest, who can provide for me a great, secular case, against incest.

McCulloch, the case against Incest is littered all throughout Exodus, Numbers, Leviticus, and Deuteronomy. Just as you should not marry a woman who your father had known, and divorced, because you might see his nakedness, it is made routine, over and over, that the family unit cannot be sexualized, or it will cease to function properly.

Again, I don't want to go too deeply into anything, until I've gotten the answer I'm looking for, it is all within the text, if you read it with the right scholarship & commentary.
Incest was clearly part of Yahweh's plan in propagating the human species, if the Bible is to be taken literally. Any latter instances of labeling incest as immoral or sinful indicates to me that Yahweh's view on the act is clearly situational and thus the morality of such, in terms of religious views, is neither objective nor consistent.

The only way to argue against incest in a non-theistic way, is to take a utilitarian and consequentialist approach.

Assuming everything is consensual, one still has to consider how such a relationship would affect the family. One has to take into account the effects this relationship might have, not only on the family but themselves and -- even their potential offspring. One also has to accept the risks and the responsibility of creating a genetically handicapped offspring (assuming the relationship involves heterosexual persons).

But all of these moral considerations aren't really anyone else's business. The decisions you make in your life really don't affect anyone else, but your immediate family and your children.

In keeping with the type of reasoning mentioned earlier, another reason not to make this a national issue is based on how rare these things are. It's not just a cultural taboo -- biologically, most people have mechanisms that recognize relatives and that attract them to strangers. It's extremely difficult to find a valid argument against incest, but due to biology, it's just irrational to fear this as something that could be taught, or that could become common in society. This issue is of no consequence for most people in society.

I personally don't care what other people do, so long as no one's consent is violated. While arbitrary age markers like 16 or 18 make this issue a little greyer -- it's clear that children don't have the capacity to consent but 21 year olds do.

While brainwashing for a future relationship is also a concern, if you're 21, you really can't claim you can't give consent (unless you've been trapped in a basement all your life).

But if it's truly consensual, and all care is taken not to bring a life of suffering into the world, and they're open with it to their family, then it's fine.

A similar issue presents itself when consensual step-siblings are involved. They're not related by blood, but would any relations they have destroy their family? I don't know; I don't think so.

I don't really find it all that morally different than two adults who wish to marry between two different religious families (to the great distress of the other families) -- and whose children turn out to have genetic diseases even though the parents weren't related (because the parents failed to get genetic testing prior to deciding to have children).

But anyways, I'm more interested in why you're interested in this issue than in the moral implications of incest, given its exceeding rarity as a societal issue.

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marketandchurch wrote:
kayky wrote: Actually, besides being husband and wife, Abraham and Sarah were brother and sister. So I don't think Marketandchurch will find the Bible very useful in building a case against incest!
That's not a good example of the bible showing you it's position on the issue.
Leviticus 18:18 wrote: You shall not marry a woman in addition to her sister as a rival while she is alive, to uncover her nakedness.
It seems as if Jacob missed this commandment.
marketandchurch wrote: McCulloch, I want to hold out a little big longer case I actually get a secular atheist who opposes incest, who can provide for me a great, secular case, against incest.
There probably is not a great secular case against incest, except perhaps this one:
marketandchurch wrote: Just as you should not marry a woman who your father had known, and divorced, because you might see his nakedness, [...] the family unit cannot be sexualized, or it will cease to function properly.
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marketandchurch wrote:
kayky wrote: Actually, besides being husband and wife, Abraham and Sarah were brother and sister. So I don't think Marketandchurch will find the Bible very useful in building a case against incest! It's a good thing modern science teaches us that, genetically speaking, this is not a good idea.
That's not a good example of the bible showing you it's position on the issue.

Abraham is the father of the three great monotheistic religions. How can he not be relevant? This is just more evidence of the contradictions found in the Bible.

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Bust Nak wrote:
And what about the trust between syblings? What if it matures into a full on life with marriage and children?
Trust between syblings is important too. I have no problem with them getting married provided there is true consent. As for children, I would strongly advice them against it, but would not outlaw it.
Thank you for framing your view of incest. Can there be a case wherein consent doesn't have an element of coercion between the older and younger member?
There can be cases where there is true consent, well, as true as a common romantic relationships that we find acceptable anyway.
Whereas, incest is.
Incest is simply a taboo, for traditional sake. One that I can discard.

That's fine Bust Nak, but why would you advise against it? Is it a matter of taste and preference?

Ritual, commandments, and prohibitions are always there to teach and pass along a value, from one generation to the next. It becomes only a meaningless tradition when the symbol loses its symbolism, and is just do so for the sake of it.

There is no possible reason that you can think of that can possibly justify the outlawing of incest? I'm just fully curious, vis-a-vis your mentioning of it being done just for traditions sake.

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[Replying to post 17 by McCulloch]

McCulloch, my response to you is the same one for Kayky. The bible describes the nature of man, as it is, and as it should be. It rarely moralizes an issue outright, or takes definitive, explicitly stated position, on the issues it discusses. However, it does drop hints throughout the entire text, and it frames the issue very very clearly, so that you don't romanticize something that the bible does not find idyllic.

Case in point, Jacob marries two sisters. One is loved, and one is not. What do we learn? Polygamy is not ideal, especially in the ancient world where it was better that a woman be married off to a man who already had a wife, then have no husband at all, but… it will not be a relationship between equals, which is the biblical ideal.

Say the world came to an end, and there was only 3 people left, and it included at least a member of the opposite sex, would the bible frown upon the coupling of all three? Unlikely. The point of the text is to discourage every possible living arrangement, other then it's man-women ideal, and, to even discourage polygamy, because of the very real occasions of inequality that have often arisen from this living arrangement. One woman's child is adored, and another's isn't, or one wife is favored amongst the rest…

The bible would not have been credible if every one of these characters were moral actors. They are psychologically real literature about very real and realistic people and life situations. They are not always exemplary saints who we should model ourselves after, outright. They make mistakes, they ruin relationships, they turn their backs on God, they commit injustices against other peoples, because the bible is about human actors, not superhuman characters who transcend human nature. This was required because it needed to be shown to all mankind that this religion that God would found using Abraham, had a flesh and blood beginning. Issau is cheated out by Jacob, Isaac kind of knows about this but willfully complies in the act. This isn't some pious literature where people in it are perfect. No, they are human.

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