Sitiation

[sledheavy]

so I just got off the phone with a friend I've known since I was three. Actually I still consider him my best friend and that won't change.

The story is that he got married in aug. a month before his 23rd birthday and come to find out, he and his wife are pregnant.

The entire course of this marriage, pre and post, I haven't really been a friend at all to him. I've told him not to get married, I complained through the bachelor party, and I've given my opinion more than not.

I can tell that he's anxious about the situation, and I can only try to give constructive advice. Honestly I'm affraid of marriage, I can't stand the idea.

I'm making the 98 mile drive to talk tonight, but if anyone can offer up some opinion, it wouldn't be in vain.

This is in no way intended to judge him or his situation, rather it's more inclined to help me, help him. Thanks.

[Furrowed Brow]

so I just got off the phone with a friend I've known since I was three. Actually I still consider him my best friend and that won't change.

The story is that he got married in aug. a month before his 23rd birthday and come to find out, he and his wife are pregnant.

The entire course of this marriage, pre and post, I haven't really been a friend at all to him. I've told him not to get married, I complained through the bachelor party, and I've given my opinion more than not.

I can tell that he's anxious about the situation, and I can only try to give constructive advice. Honestly I'm affraid of marriage, I can't stand the idea.

I'm making the 98 mile drive to talk tonight, but if anyone can offer up some opinion, it wouldn't be in vain.

This is in no way intended to judge him or his situation, rather it's more inclined to help me, help him. Thanks.

This is timely. I had a friend from the age 11. We talked about anything and everything. When one moved house the other helped out. Someone had a couple of tonnes of gravel to shift, the other helped out. We drank together and did sport together. When one had girlfriend problem the other was there to listen. After 28 years I'd say we knew each other just about as well as any couple of guys can say they know each other.

Anyhow my friend was due to be married, and I was due to be best man. However I was unhappy about some things that had been said over the previous couple of years, and I realised I was not that happy being man, and I really needed to get some stuff off my chest. The upshot was that the friendship broke down. Mainly because my gripes were pretty much with the fiancé, and I guess my friend felt what I said challenged him in that to come out and be protective of her.

That was 4 years ago and we had not seen each other at all over that time. However lately I've been involved in some reunions with old school friends, and my friends name had come up. So only last Sunday I went around to see him. Where my gripes had dimmed over the years, he had not forgiven me for pulling out of being best man, and the things I had said. In fact he made it quite clear he now loathed me. The friendship is now completely dead.

So I'd just say to you to be careful.

[sledheavy]

so I just got off the phone with a friend I've known since I was three. Actually I still consider him my best friend and that won't change.

The story is that he got married in aug. a month before his 23rd birthday and come to find out, he and his wife are pregnant.

The entire course of this marriage, pre and post, I haven't really been a friend at all to him. I've told him not to get married, I complained through the bachelor party, and I've given my opinion more than not.

I can tell that he's anxious about the situation, and I can only try to give constructive advice. Honestly I'm affraid of marriage, I can't stand the idea.

I'm making the 98 mile drive to talk tonight, but if anyone can offer up some opinion, it wouldn't be in vain.

This is in no way intended to judge him or his situation, rather it's more inclined to help me, help him. Thanks.

This is timely. I had a friend from the age 11. We talked about anything and everything. When one moved house the other helped out. Someone had a couple of tonnes of gravel to shift, the other helped out. We drank together and did sport together. When one had girlfriend problem the other was there to listen. After 28 years I'd say we knew each other just about as well as any couple of guys can say they know each other.

Anyhow my friend was due to be married, and I was due to be best man. However I was unhappy about some things that had been said over the previous couple of years, and I realised I was not that happy being man, and I really needed to get some stuff off my chest. The upshot was that the friendship broke down. Mainly because my gripes were pretty much with the fiancé, and I guess my friend felt what I said challenged him in that to come out and be protective of her.

That was 4 years ago and we had not seen each other at all over that time. However lately I've been involved in some reunions with old school friends, and my friends name had come up. So only last Sunday I went around to see him. Where my gripes had dimmed over the years, he had not forgiven me for pulling out of being best man, and the things I had said. In fact he made it quite clear he now loathed me. The friendship is now completely dead.

So I'd just say to you to be careful.

.....wow.

yeah, I'll most def. keep that in mind.

We talked about the situation and I really don't know what more I could do than give him reassurance. I told him he's fortunate to have 2 great families that want full attention of the child, and that I wouldn't mind babysitting.

Then we got drunk.

And I made a complete ass of myself.

I think he's a better friend than me by far.