Does accepting responsibility require forgiveness?

[SimpleLayman]

Does accepting responsibility require forgiveness? I've heard it said that everyone in life is on a journey, and a journey has its stages, for you and those around you. Ideally, it'd end in a new status quo, and I wonder to myself if this new status quo should be respibility to such a degree that you are not met with bitterness or anger when your companions fall short, or maybe even when you are wronged. When discussing right and wrong, we all know that we must refrain from allowing ourselves to feel a number of things. Things like greed, envy, anger, hatred. We know that in order to do this we must reflect and most importantly take full and total responsibility for all things that occur in our lives, especially with our own thoughts and feelings.

I propose that this is not even possible without forgiveness through acknowledgeing that those in your path, or maybe even your close companions in this life are flawed, but you yourself need not be so. You need not value your own wants and desires so highly that you give yourself permission to feel bitter or righteous indignation after being wronged. I also propose that forgiveness such as this is not possible without love, and a love that is in something greater than either you or those you might wish to forgive for your own sake as well as theirs.

This responsibility is of course christian, although many christians fail to take it up. Nothing I have said is derived from or explained by evolutionary bahavior, nor is it inherently biological or social. I think that it is uniquely godly, which is also why it is so exceedingly rare to see in someone. Suppose I were to tell you that in so doing, the joy of the lord will reside in you. You will continue on a path that was not visible nor possible without it. Suppose I tell you that this is the testimony that compells more people to come to christ than any apologetics you might have heard? The simple truth of how responsibility, true responsibility begets both love and forgiveness and invites into your life the joy of the lord.

This is where your jouney should both begin and end in the new status quo. It's called the salvation of Christ. True responsibility requires your repentance. It requires rebuking not only every bad thing in the world, but every thought that keeps you out of God's grace, your own desires, everything that keeps you from being responsible enough to love even your enemies whom you may have good reason to hate. "For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life". John 3:16

If you wish to debate anything that I have said, I ask that you show me how delusion could play a role in something such as this. Why is this the false paradigm in comparison to what the world asks of us and offers us? If it is not delusion, explain how my perception came to be out of the primordial pool where we all evolved from, or how such a view invites the joy of the lord into your heart. Suppose it is just a psychological hack for more dopamine or oxytocin, we're all but heroin addicts; then how is it that this path leads to prosperity?