You are the President of Christian Women Against Gay Marriages. You come home one day from a meeting and your 18 year old son reveals that he is a homosexual. Furthermore, he announces to you that he has ran off with his boyfriend over the weekend to Massachusetts and has gotten married. He shows his diamond wedding ring to you.
What do you do? How do you explain this to your CWAGM members?
(Be reminded that no debates on other peoples' posts are to be posted here, only what you would do if you were in this situation)
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Well, I would hope that it would make me examine my values a bit - I would think to myself, 'my son is a good, loving person, and he seems very happy. He goes to church every week, and often does a better job than I do, living up to the teachings of the Jesus dude. Maybe I should resign my position...'
Of course, the dilemma you've created is a bit too narrow for my taste. One might assume that, being the president of this club, I am sufficiently narrow-minded that I might disown my son rather than change my views.
Of course, humans are capable of remarkable disconnection when it comes to their own families vs. their professed beliefs. There are numerous instances of conservative lawmakers who draft and support strong anti-drug legislation, whose children, arrested and/or convicted for those very drug laws, somehow manage to get out of the wringer.
Of course, the dilemma you've created is a bit too narrow for my taste. One might assume that, being the president of this club, I am sufficiently narrow-minded that I might disown my son rather than change my views.
Of course, humans are capable of remarkable disconnection when it comes to their own families vs. their professed beliefs. There are numerous instances of conservative lawmakers who draft and support strong anti-drug legislation, whose children, arrested and/or convicted for those very drug laws, somehow manage to get out of the wringer.
Post #3
Well, I have to doubt a homosexual son would show and explain the wedding ring to a mother who is president of CWAGM... 
But if the hypothetical situation actually happened, and I was really this mother, it's likely that if I'm a member of such an organisation, my beliefs would be strong enough for me to disown my son. But there's still a slight chance that the experience might be enough to make them resign the post, if not out of reevaluating their position, then out of shame. A president of such a group would be big on appearances.
But if the hypothetical situation actually happened, and I was really this mother, it's likely that if I'm a member of such an organisation, my beliefs would be strong enough for me to disown my son. But there's still a slight chance that the experience might be enough to make them resign the post, if not out of reevaluating their position, then out of shame. A president of such a group would be big on appearances.
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Post #4
I would at first be shocked and stunned. I think the dilemma would be along the same lines of Tevye's daughters getting married in Fiddler on the Roof. How can I reconcile my faith with my family? However, in this instance, I don't think my faith needs to be abandoned. I would very reluctantly still accept my son's decision. And I would as well very reluctuantly resign as president of the organization.
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Post #5
I see no reason to abandon my post as the president of the organization because of my son's choice. His life is his own as are his choices. Yes, those choices may reflect on my life, but I would only resign if the members of this Christian organization no longer felt comfortable with me as their chief.
Post #6
I'm not sure if this requires a separate topic or not, so bear with me.
Turn the question around a bit. Imagine that you're the head of a liberal gay activist group. Though you, yourself are not gay, you have many friends and family members who are and you are passionate about the cause. Your son, who had previously come out as gay, and was one of the reasons for your overt activism, suddenly tells you he is about to be married to a woman who is a devout Catholic, and also that he has repudiated homosexuality.
Turn the question around a bit. Imagine that you're the head of a liberal gay activist group. Though you, yourself are not gay, you have many friends and family members who are and you are passionate about the cause. Your son, who had previously come out as gay, and was one of the reasons for your overt activism, suddenly tells you he is about to be married to a woman who is a devout Catholic, and also that he has repudiated homosexuality.
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Post #7
As a mother, I would love my child regardless of what he has done. I don't have to like his lifestyle to love him.
As to explanation to the group, I would tell the truth - it is the only thing you can do that is right.
As to explanation to the group, I would tell the truth - it is the only thing you can do that is right.
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Post #10
Any of the two dilemmas would be a test of anyone's family values. People pay a lot of lip service to family values, but then some of those who do disown their children because they choose a lifestyle they disapprove of (I'm not talking about extreme cases like a son becoming a terrorist or anything like that).
Around these western ex-provinces of the former Roman Empire family reigns (almost) supreme. So I'd say I'd tell my son I disagree with his choice, but I that would support him as I think a parent should.
Around these western ex-provinces of the former Roman Empire family reigns (almost) supreme. So I'd say I'd tell my son I disagree with his choice, but I that would support him as I think a parent should.
