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Arguing hard against Christianity = Not wanting to believe?

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In another thread, these comments were made to another member:
justifyothers wrote: The reason I can't understand that you are struggling TO believe is because you argue so strongly against the idea. I mean, you don't just raise questions or throw up a mental block now & then - you really argue hard, opposing any possibility, from what I can see on this forum.
The person this was said to said that they were struggling to believe in God, where is Justifyothers believes he is trying not to believe.

So, if a skeptic argues very hard against religion, seeming not to back down, does that mean they don't want to believe? Does it mean they don't want to believe in God?

Society and its morals evolve and will continue to evolve. The bible however remains the same and just requires more and more apologetics and claims of "metaphors" and "symbolism" to justify it.

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onefaith wrote: There's no "church expectation". The church knows that Christians sin. Any church that threatens the church members because they sin is dumb. Churches don't use Jesus to make people stay. People choose if they stay or not, the church doesn't. Churches tell of Jesus because we believe/know its true. It's not a scam for money.
As a child I personally had a beating often after school because I didn't believe, or attend church (I became quite disruptive when taken, and my parents realized I was best off with a babysitter). I'm not talking about your average beating that some folks rightly deserve. I'm talking about a beating by multiples of people, and they made sure I knew I was getting my beating because I failed to profess the faith. So you're right to a point. I did choose to not go to church. But I dang sure didn't choose to suffer at the hands and feet of bullies.
When I complained to my parents, they told me they were sorry, but if I would only profess my belief, the bullies would stop. When I complained to the principal, I was told I could be placed in the special education classes. "But what about after school when these beating occur", I asked. That's off school grounds, off school time.
I was eight years old when this started. Eight. I was led to believe that Satan himself had taken me as his own. I was convinced that since I didn't believe God, I was in league with the devil. I was evil, and all my actions were evil. It was what I was taught, it was what was left for me in my disbelief. It lasted into young adulthood for me. It lasted until I found a job that moved me to another part of the state.
I rejected religious belief because of the violence the Bible holds (among other reasons). What did I get for my efforts? Proof the Bible is indeed a violent way.
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joeyknuccione wrote:As a child I personally had a beating often after school because I didn't believe, or attend church ...
I rejected religious belief because of the violence the Bible holds. What did I get for my efforts? Proof the Bible is indeed a violent way.
At the risk of arguing from the other side, I must respond.

Christianity and the Bible are not wrong because some evil bastards used it as an excuse to abuse you. Obviously, those people did not get the message preached by Jesus.

Ok, I'll get back on my own side of the fence now.
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McCulloch wrote:
joeyknuccione wrote:As a child I personally had a beating often after school because I didn't believe, or attend church ...
I rejected religious belief because of the violence the Bible holds. What did I get for my efforts? Proof the Bible is indeed a violent way.
At the risk of arguing from the other side, I must respond.

Christianity and the Bible are not wrong because some evil bastards used it as an excuse to abuse you. Obviously, those people did not get the message preached by Jesus.

Ok, I'll get back on my own side of the fence now.
It's taken me a long time to understand this one, and I have had a hatred towards religion because of this. Where does the beatings because of my disbelief end, and this love religion professes begin? If I am told I'm getting the hell beat out of me specifically because I don't believe, then what am I to think? When I am getting kicked about the head because I don't believe Jesus is as claimed, then what lesson have I learned of Jesus? What does Jesus have to say to me when he delivers his message at the end of a boot?
When does Jesus quit abusing me, and start loving me? When will Jesus be kind to me? When I can no longer resist the violence inflicted on me? When I am no longer physically or mentally able to fight back?
This Jesus that many find to be so loving and kind has sure not been so kind to me. When Jesus comes to me with His head bowed, and says He believes in me, then maybe I can consider what He says as viable.

I understand that many who believe in God and Jesus are good people, and they should not be held accountable when others act in harmful ways. But shouldn't I also judge Jesus when he has others kick me in the face because I don't believe? Who is right? Those who profess this Jesus as loving, and provide no proof, or those who beat the hell out of me, and condemn me in Jesus' name?

Of course I'm an atheist, I have yet to see any proof for a God, little to no proof for a loving God, and a whole hell of a lot of proof for a hateful God.
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It's unbelieveable that you were beaten by those people because you didn't believe. I mean, I believe you, it's just downright wrong. Those people weren't showing the love of Jesus at all. The only "violent" thing Jesus ever did was knock over a table. But he healed many people, and he took his own beating and died on the cross out of love for us. In your situation, those who beat you I see as pharisees who hated Jesus. Jesus was in your position, and he knows what its like. I promise you, he didn't tell them to do that to you. He has been there too. He wasn't taking revenge on you. In no way were the people who beat you following Jesus, God, or the bible. I'm really sorry that happened.

I believe Jesus delivers his message as a gentle whisper, not by the end of a boot. I believe Jesus has always loved you and still does. I believe it would be very unlike him to die for you and then tell people to beat you up. I believe Jesus does believe in you. I believe that with all of my heart. Would he have died for you if he didn't? He died for YOU. He didn't exclude you from the people he died for. You are included. He sure doesn't hate you.

Let me ask you this: if good Christians shouldn't be responsible for what Christians who do bad things do, should the one who loves you more than anyone, who died for you out of love, who commands people not to hurt others, but has showed his love in so many ways, be blamed? If he speaks against violence between people, should he be blamed when people disobey him?

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onefaith wrote: Let me ask you this: if good Christians shouldn't be responsible for what Christians who do bad things do, should the one who loves you more than anyone, who died for you out of love, who commands people not to hurt others, but has showed his love in so many ways, be blamed? If he speaks against violence between people, should he be blamed when people disobey him?
I see what you're saying here, and I understand that Jesus teaches folks they should be good. What I have a hard time doing is separating the good from the bad. I realize I'm being prejudiced, and this is the struggle I've had. Where is the line between good and bad?
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joeyknuccione wrote: I see what you're saying here, and I understand that Jesus teaches folks they should be good. What I have a hard time doing is separating the good from the bad. I realize I'm being prejudiced, and this is the struggle I've had. Where is the line between good and bad?
I don't think you're prejudiced Joey.
Ideas are formed by experiences. You have had some incredibly bad experiences with people doing harm to you or your friend in the name of Christianity. Therefore, Christianity is a horrible and violent idea in your mind. You have all the reason in the world to think that way, and I wouldn't have blamed you if you had refused to have anything to do with religion for the rest of your life.

Still, here you are, discussing with Christians, and your mind is even open enough to see that the teachings of Jesus are different from Christianity as you have experienced it.

My respect to you.

As for separating good and bad... well... no one can give you an answer there I think. I believe that only two things are really bad, which is 1. hurting others for your own pleasure and 2. being an hypocrite, which damn well applies to those bastards that were hurting you.
For the rest it's really hard, sometimes people do horrible things while they honestly think they are being the good guys. For example those Abu Ghraib soldiers or even Al Qaeda terrorists, they all think that they are doing the right thing, which is a really chilling thought.

You can listen to others, but in the end, you can only follow your own conscience. If you feel that some Christians are misunderstanding the teachings of Jesus, condemn them. If you feel that it's Jesus himself who is wrong, condemn him too, but also ask yourself what image of Jesus you have in your head, and if that's the same image that other folks have. I used to refuse believing in God but then I discovered that it was mostly this omnipotent bearded man in the sky I had a problem with (after all, it's all his fault, isn't it?). When I realized that this is a fairy tale suited for some people but not for me, I could set aside some of my prejudices and start to believe in my own way.
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You can listen to others, but in the end, you can only follow your own conscience. If you feel that some Christians are misunderstanding the teachings of Jesus, condemn them. If you feel that it's Jesus himself who is wrong, condemn him too, but also ask yourself what image of Jesus you have in your head, and if that's the same image that other folks have. I used to refuse believing in God but then I discovered that it was mostly this omnipotent bearded man in the sky I had a problem with (after all, it's all his fault, isn't it?). When I realized that this is a fairy tale suited for some people but not for me, I could set aside some of my prejudices and start to believe in my own way.
Is it ok for nonchristians to condemn christians, but not the other way around? I'm not saying I would condemn anyone and I'm not saying that Christians should condemn anyone. But if its so bad, why is it ok for people to condemn Christians?

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onefaith wrote:Is it ok for nonchristians to condemn christians, but not the other way around? I'm not saying I would condemn anyone and I'm not saying that Christians should condemn anyone. But if its so bad, why is it ok for people to condemn Christians?
Condemnation isn't a bad thing IMO. You have condemned the self-described Christians who abused Joey, and rightfully so. It is also rightful to condemn the self-described atheist communists who persecuted Christians.
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onefaith wrote:It's unbelieveable that you were beaten by those people because you didn't believe. I mean, I believe you, it's just downright wrong. Those people weren't showing the love of Jesus at all.
Very likely he was beaten because he was different. The particular difference happened to be religion. The reason was that he was different. The cause of the difference was religion. It's a semantic difference, but an important one. Their religion likely didn't make them do it. Human nature did.
The only "violent" thing Jesus ever did was knock over a table.
If he was human, in any meaningful form of the word, Jesus likely suffered bouts of anger and the childhood violence that comes with it. Not every moment of his life was documented. What support is there for the view that Jesus was a perfect child?

But he healed many people, and he took his own beating and died on the cross out of love for us.
Again, you have to separate reason and cause. He was beaten and died because he was gaining power through his following and because that threatened the religious oligarchy of the neighborhood. His power was derived from his followers' belief that he was the messiah.
1In your situation, those who beat you I see as pharisees who hated Jesus. Jesus was in your position, and he knows what its like. I promise you, he didn't tell them to do that to you. He has been there too. He wasn't taking revenge on you. In no way were the people who beat you following Jesus, God, or the bible. I'm really sorry that happened.

I believe Jesus delivers his message as a gentle whisper, not by the end of a boot.
His followers may not follow that notion, however. His followers were protecting their social dominance. They were oppressing a contrary set of beliefs, while also gaining status points within their social circle by defeating that external threat.

You seem to be, as usual, giving religion a free pass with respect to its behavior. If he'd been beaten because of his nationality or his political views or his color there'd be no misunderstanding. But instead, those people were being "unchristlike". No, they were being thuggish.

I believe Jesus has always loved you and still does. I believe it would be very unlike him to die for you and then tell people to beat you up. I believe Jesus does believe in you. I believe that with all of my heart. Would he have died for you if he didn't? He died for YOU. He didn't exclude you from the people he died for. You are included. He sure doesn't hate you.

Let me ask you this: if good Christians shouldn't be responsible for what Christians who do bad things do, should the one who loves you more than anyone, who died for you out of love, who commands people not to hurt others, but has showed his love in so many ways, be blamed? If he speaks against violence between people, should he be blamed when people disobey him?
He is also the same God that made the Earth and mankind, and is responsible for how mankind behaves. He made the rules. Can you separate that from Jesus's message?

Is that perhaps why the idea of the Holy Trinity came about? Is it an opportunity to separate aspects of God's nature so that the good can be distilled in one spect while the destructive, petty nature of the old ruler God can be left to another, while the mystical, unworldly nature of God is left to yet another?
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This is a tough one for me. I understand that forgiving folks is a good thing, in that it helps the healing process (from a psychological/physical, and yes even religious standpoint). In the past I held myself as morally superior to religion because I thought my belief system didn't allow for condemning others. But here I find myself condemning people, and I can't figure out how to square it up. If I forgive, then have I taken the responsibility away?

Onefaith, I agree one hundred percent that I should not make a blanket condemnation (like I did in the past). I really do. But if I forgive on the one hand, haven't I also kind of accepted on the other? I'm just talking about the particular individuals involved.
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