Because seemingly even if he might believe that the woman doesn't want it he just has to put a bit more effort into arousing her until she says yes.
Yes but that implies a social conditioning where a woman would not be expected (allowed) to say yes when she means it.
That and the man in the date rape situation believes he is owed anyway.
I've read quite a bit of the reasearch on rape, including acquaintance rape, and I don't think this concept of being "owed" something is considered a significant component.
And this desn't cover the stranger rapist situation either, where the guy knows he's doing something wrong
Let's not flit back and forth. When I was talking about non-acquaintance rape you objected based on date rape. When I talk about dape rape you switch back to stranger rape.
For non-aquaintance rape, the question is why does someone who is intent on violence and harm choose to use sexual activity, which is inherently non-violent? Sex can only be a tool of the rapist because of the social pressue focused on sex, which is predominately religious in nature. IOW, the religions
arm the rapist.
So I HAVE to express my sexuality? What if I don't want to?
No one said that, did they? The fact that you interpreted my description of oppressed female sexuality as a demand for you to express your sexuality is surely a clue as to how socially pressurized this issue is.
Is that what every girl is supposed to do if they stop being religious?
Nope. No one said that either. By contrast, if you are a christian woman you are supposed to be married and boinking your husband, regardless of whether you want to or not. Sexual freedom inherently includes freedom to be non-sexual if you choose.
Aren't there women out there that aren't religious yet get raped anyway? There are cases mentioned where the woman did have sex before hand and wouldn't have had inhibitions yet she gets raped afterwards. What about those?
What about them? Rape is about consent, not about a woman's attitude towards sex.
It's funny that many religious people can't understand how a prostitute can be raped. It comes back to the anti-feminist view that women's consent can be assumed or inferred.
You mean the problem would go away if the pressure was ratched up a few notches? Doesn't sound credible, does it? That way lies burkas. And look what happens to the societies that have burkas. There the mere existance of women is dangerously sexual.
What about Islam? Yeah you get idiots like that shiek but then there are several muslim men I have met that are quite nicely mannered. Guess that means just because they are muslim/ religious doesn't mean they will turn into evil sex-fiends.
The muslims you meet here in the west are very likely to be highly-educated, socially-sensitive, and (gasp) liberal. But you don't follow women's affairs in the arab/islamic world, do you? In many of those countries there needs to be an actual movement to try (unsucessfully so far) to convince families to stop murdering their daughters if they are raped.
Imagine that! Sex is so highly charged in those societies that if you are unfortunate enough to be a victim of rape, you risk being killed by your family because
you have dishonored them. In those societies, is islam contributing to the well-being of it's citizens?
Please don't try to demonise Islam to justify your beliefs.
I'm an
atheist. I oppose islam no more and no less than I oppose christianity.
Genesis 34
The issue is intermarriage, not rape. We do not know if Dinah consented to sex or not. It doesn't say. And the Israelites aren't interested. They weren't going to consent to her marriage, even if it were based on love, respect and peace. BTW, they carried off the women of that city. What for, we wonder?
Judges 19
One of the more perverse passages in the bible. What lesson about rape are you drawing from it? Islam-style honor-killing?
2 Sam 13
This is one of the passages that justifies marriage by rape.
Did you notice, in these passages, that the rape of a woman is in fact an attack on the "property" of men? Daughter, sister, concubine, all owned by one man or another. Where is the sense in your bible that women can make up thier own minds, live their own lives, and seek their woen fulfillment?
DanZ