Is Kinky Sex Wrong?

[Merv]

I've heard people say that kinky sex is a perversion of God's design for sex. But then again, I've also heard a few people say that anything can go in the bedroom so long as it's still between the married man and the woman.

I don't think the Bible ever stated that kinky sex between married people is bad. Does the Bible even state that general lust between married people is bad for that matter?

So where's the real truth of that? Is kinky sex wrong?

[Lainey]

Why did mine post twice? I only hit the "submit" button once.

[Katsuro]

I'd say no it's not wrong. It's between two consenting people, no one gets hurt (against their will anyway lol) so where's the harm?

I never really understood the obsession with sex that many Christians seem to have. It probably shows that whoever came up with such sexual moralities had some severe sexual hang-ups! Or it's more likely that it comes from the Victorians. Well actually if it does come from the Victorians (which it would appear so) then it definitely shows the creators of such ideas had severe sexual hang-ups lol.

[Greatest I Am]

We all have God given natures.
If we follow our natures faithfully, they will guide us.
To my way of thinking, if no victim or complaint exists then no sin and no harm evil done.
Sex is an enjoyable pass time.
Sometimes pastimes need help.
Dancing needs music.
Would we deprive someone of their Viagra. It is as valid to sex for some as are the more novel add ons.

We should not be so occupied with people's body parts.

Regards
DL

[Openmind]

Madeleine,

Your views are biblically unfounded. I would suggest that they are personal opinion. Which has nothing to do with the original post.

Sex is fun. Have it.

[EdTheOvertgeek]

I think that some forms of 'Kinky Sex' is just wrong, e.g., Sadomascochism! If people enjoy being tortured then they'll most likely get their request granted in the eternal fires of hell where they can scream all they want. God intended us to love each other, not spank, whip and tie each other up and blindfold them.

Love,
Madeline

If both people enjoy it, it's fine; what could be wrong with something that is done on consent and benefits everyone involved?

Anyway, often sadomasochism isn't just about pain; it's about differences in power and control; dominance and submission, so many masochists probably wouldn't enjoy eternal fires.

[DerangedProtagonist]

I think the reason why we have issues like these is because it's just considered "bad manners," even though it's behind closed doors.

We live in an age where people are becoming more and more expressive of their desires and passions, as opposed to the 19th century. So now even private expressions of the passions between men and women are deplored.

[EdTheOvertgeek]

i don't see how you come to the conclusion that is the second statement of your second paragraph from the first statement of your second paragraph - surely if the first is true, the second is less the case than it used to be, making the 'so now' inappropriate? I'm confused.

[DerangedProtagonist]

i don't see how you come to the conclusion that is the second statement of your second paragraph from the first statement of your second paragraph - surely if the first is true, the second is less the case than it used to be, making the 'so now' inappropriate? I'm confused.

I think you're confusing me too by not quoting me enough. You speak in terms of statements and paragraphs!!!

Ok, I read my post and think I figured out what the confusion might be about. I guess I didn't think enough about clear communication there.

What I meant was, despite us becoming more expressive, we still think it's wrong to express ourselves in those ways. We think over-expression of our desires and passions is arrogant and indecent -- or should I say -- narcissistic? Maybe that's what the taboo is about -- narcissism. Self-admiration/adoration. Oh we're so good!!!! Look at us. We can do the dance in a grand, spectacular way.

[EdTheOvertgeek]

I think it's more a matter of persecuting those who are different to convince oneself that one is normal - self-perpetuating harmful egotism.

[Madeline]

I never had sex before, but reconsidering the situation...I don't see how a little spanking or light whipping your boyfriend or husband during sex is morally wrong, especially if he's been naughty!

Love,
Madeline