lacy16 wrote:I think that it's obvious from the many educated post on this topic that Biblically and even socially (when practiced without moral retardants) is very acceptable. The only negatives to pedophilia and polygamy is the damage done by nosey and intrusive observers that then try and make those engaged in these acts feel guilty or victimized. The crime is making two people that have conscentual feeling for each other feel ashamed when they in reality have done nothing wrong. The laws of the land as made by self proposed morally superior politicians and religious leaders are what do the real damage to the joys of marriage and the pleasure of sex regardless of age by incorrectly making what is very right seem condemned.
I do not know any friends of mine where polygamy has been and issue but as for incest, I do have a personal reference to speak from. I have known three friends that I found out have had incestuous relationships. In all three cases I knew the supposed underage participant and they we well functioning bright people. In one the mother had the father arrested, the family was split, the mother laid guilt on my friend and the looks she got from others changed. Then her grades dropped and she became more withdrawn. It was not the act of incest that caused the problem as she told me that she loved her father, it was the outside social implications, ostrisizng, legal hassels, and guilt society dumped on her. Noone care about what she said because they said she was underage.
The second ended in a divorce only but even in that my friend lost her father and brother until she is at least 18. Again her grades fell after it all came out because of all the drama that followed. Again the mother only listened to enough of what she had to say to keep from having the dad and brother arrested.
The third I did not know about until just recently she is in college and doing very well. I just found out that her father and her have had a sexual relationship since she was very young and she shows no signs of emotional scarring, depression, or any functional negative effects and I believe its because the peer and political pressures never became came down on them.
I know of several cases also. However, in the cases I know of, there are some deep scars that were inflicted. One case, the father did go to prison due to the young woman exposure of it (she was afraid he would start molesting her youngest sister), but she had all the signs of being very disturbed before that.
Another one is diagnosed with a psychological disorder, and is going to a therapist. They have improved drastically under the therapist's care, but I don't think their
disorder will ever go away totally.
The third committed suicide. She was very bright, talented and intelligent, who just so happened to refuse to actually speak. She also had bouts of depression, which I believe to be directly caused by the situation with her father.
Of course, there could be others from people I know that aren't so wounded. It is the wounded that are noticeable. However, from that sample, I don't think that the 'only negatives' to pedophilia is the damage done by intrusive others. The cases I know are too dramatic in the damage they caused.
